“Dear Sasha,
I have been dating my current boyfriend for two years. I just discovered that he has been cheating on me. I am just distraught and don’t know how to deal with this.
Please help!
Dear Vidhushi,
I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through a difficult situation. Discovering that your partner may be cheating can be extremely painful and challenging. Here are some general suggestions on how to handle this situation:
  • Take time for yourself: Allow yourself to process your emotions and take the time you need to heal. It’s important to prioritize your well-being and give yourself space to understand your feelings.
  • Communicate openly: When you feel ready, have an open and honest conversation with your boyfriend. Share your concerns and listen to his perspective. Effective communication can provide clarity and help you make informed decisions.
  • Seek support: Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or a therapist who can provide emotional support during this challenging time. Having a support system can help you navigate your emotions and provide different perspectives.
  • Assess your boundaries and values: Reflect on your personal values and the boundaries you want to establish in your relationships. Consider whether forgiveness and rebuilding trust are possible for you, or if it may be healthier to consider ending the relationship.
  • Prioritize self-care: Engage in activities that promote self-care and well-being. This could include exercise, hobbies, meditation, or spending time with loved ones. Taking care of yourself is essential during times of emotional distress.
  • Consider professional help: If the situation becomes too overwhelming or you’re struggling to cope with the emotional impact, seeking guidance from a therapist or counselor can provide you with additional tools and support.

Remember, every situation is unique, and the decision you make should be based on what feels right for you. It’s important to trust your instincts and prioritize your emotional well-being throughout this process.

Much love